I am no stranger to anger. It's not that I am an angry person. But I definitely have a temper (hot-Italian over here) and I am not the most patient of individuals.
I do a pretty decent job of keeping myself in check when it comes to not being the “angry mama.” After all, Tiny is little, she isn't purposely pushing my buttons or manipulating me, and as soon as I look at her sweet little face, so full of wonder and love, my anger melts away. (With I could say the same for impatience).
Anyway, there are a lot of parents out there with anger issues and as such, I have not only personally written a lot about anger in parenting but also hosted several wonderful guest posts on the subject.
Instead of reinventing the wheel, I would like to direct you to the posts that I feel are most important for every parent to read, especially if you are dealing with anger issues.
Mad, Pissed, Incensed, Enraged, Furious, Outraged, Irate, Fired Up, and Livid – The Angry Parent Phenomenon
This post looks at what anger is, what is looks like, and what might cause anger to build up.
Anger in Parenting – Consider the Impact
This post outlines the ways in which you should stop and consider how your anger is impacting your child.
Anger in Parenting – Ways of Reconnecting
What should your first step be after you have an anger filled response to your child? Reconnect! Here, I outline how to reconnect in the first few minutes, hours, days, weeks, and even months.
Anger in Parenting – Addressing Your Anger
If you have anger issue or demonstrate frequent anger-filled reactions to your child's behavior, then it is time to be proactive and address your anger. I offer up many suggestions as to how you can take the bull by the horns and move past your anger.
Unrealistic Expectations As Parental Anger Triggers
Every parent has that button. It is the one that our children push unknowingly. A lot. Most of the time, our buttons are pushed by a totally normal developmental behavior in our child. Said behavior just happens to be one that grates on us and one that we wish above everything else, didn't exist. It seems to be the norm for adults to view children as small adults who should be able to conform to adult standards. When they don't, we get mad. This post outlines some of the unrealistic expectations by age group and behavior to help you get a better handle on what you really shouldn't be getting so worked up over.
And here are three guest posts that should get your wheels turning…
A Q&A with Amy from Presence Parenting
Just read this. Seriously.
A Personal Story About Anger In The Home
Deep. That is all.
Why We Explode and How To Prevent It.
Epic. Just epic.
I hope these posts resonate with those of you who need them. If you don't, please share these with anyone you think might. There is nothing beneficial to your child when he or she is raised in a home filled with anger. It takes a lot of work to have a peaceful home. But it is time and energy well spent.